「和諧家庭協進會」是一個由義務工作者組成的團體,成立於2009年12月。目的是致力增進家庭的和諧、改善家長子女及夫妻間的溝通、減少代溝、預防家庭衝突、協助新移民家庭適應新環境及妥善處理中西文化的差異。同時與其他團體及及不同背景的族裔們一同為共同的目標而努力,並加強聯系。

"Family Harmony", an organization formed by volunteers, was established in December 2009. Its aims are to: promote family harmony, improve the communication between family members, reduce the generation gap, prevent family conflicts, help new immigrants adapt to the new environment, and get immigrants accustomed to the cultural differences between the East and West. In addition to these aims, we work hard to strengthen our ties with other organizations and ethnic groups to achieve our common goal of having family harmony.

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建立一個和諧的家庭

我們深信社會上的暴力、罪案、毒品、青少年問題、自殺率的上升和個人的抑鬱情緒等等,大部份都是家庭有問題時所出現的症狀。如果家庭能重建和諧,這些社會或個人問題會大大減少。

常見的溝通問題--言語暴力

夫妻之間

「跟你講都是浪費精力。你都不會明白,真是笨蛋。」對方聽到這話只會接收到自尊心受攻擊及被辱罵的訊息。但是說這話的一方其實真正想表達的感受是〝我的需要是希望你能明白我〞。

子女之間

「整天都在玩電腦,你的眼快盲啦。關了它,聽到嗎?」孩子聽到的是你在責罵他,不給他自由,不瞭解他。其實你真正想表達的感受是〝我看見你面對著電腦這麼長的時間,我很擔心你的眼會受損。我希望你把它關了吧〞。

知己知彼,溝通雙贏

掌握有效的技巧來瞭解子女心中的感受與需要,也讓子女明白父母的感受及需要,這樣才可以與子女有真正的溝通,達到雙贏局面。學習有效的溝通技巧是可以重建人與人之間的關係、家庭的和諧。

 

Establish a Harmonious Family

We truly believe that the social phenomena involving increasing violence, crime, drugs, adolescent problems, rates of suicide, and depression mostly result from the consequences of having unresolved family problems and confrontations. If we can re-establish a harmonious family, these social and individual problems would be greatly reduced.

The unsatisfactory communication among family members is a major factor in causing family disputes. In order to have good communication skills, we need to become aware of the inappropriate ways in which we communicate.

Common Communication Problems

Between Husband and Wife:

"It wastes my energy to talk to you. What a waste of time! You don't understand. This is useless!" The person who listens to this will feel like he is being attacked and insulted, when in reality the real meaning behind his partner's words are: "My need is to hope that you understand me."

Between Parents and Children:

"You have been playing with the computer for the whole day. Your eyes will become blind. Shut it down! Do you hear me?!" What the child has heard is you blaming him and not giving him enough freedom. What you really want to express is: "I have seen you using the computer for a long time. I worry that your eyes will get hurt. I hope that you can turn off the computer."

Knowling Yourself and Knowing Others: Win Win Communication

For parents to understand children's feelings and needs and for children to understand parents' feelings and needs, parents need to master effective communication skills in order to achieve a win win situration. Effective communication can help re-establish human relationship and family harmony.

 

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