＂Ｆamily Harmony", an organization formed by volunteers, was established in December 2009. Its aims are to: promote family harmony, improve the communication between family members, reduce the generation gap, prevent family conflicts, help new immigrants adapt to the new environment, and get immigrants accustomed to the cultural differences between the East and West. In addition to these aims, we work hard to strengthen our ties with other organizations and ethnic groups to achieve our common goal of having family harmony.
Establish a Harmonious Family
We truly believe that the social phenomena involving increasing violence, crime, drugs, adolescent problems, rates of suicide, and depression mostly result from the consequences of having unresolved family problems and confrontations. If we can re-establish a harmonious family, these social and individual problems would be greatly reduced.
The unsatisfactory communication among family members is a major factor in causing family disputes. In order to have good communication skills, we need to become aware of the inappropriate ways in which we communicate.
Common Communication Problems
Between Husband and Wife:
"It wastes my energy to talk to you. What a waste of time! You don't understand. This is useless!" The person who listens to this will feel like he is being attacked and insulted, when in reality the real meaning behind his partner's words are: "My need is to hope that you understand me."
Between Parents and Children:
"You have been playing with the computer for the whole day. Your eyes will become blind. Shut it down! Do you hear me?!" What the child has heard is you blaming him and not giving him enough freedom. What you really want to express is: "I have seen you using the computer for a long time. I worry that your eyes will get hurt. I hope that you can turn off the computer."
Knowling Yourself and Knowing Others: Win Win Communication
For parents to understand children's feelings and needs and for children to understand parents' feelings and needs, parents need to master effective communication skills in order to achieve a win win situration. Effective communication can help re-establish human relationship and family harmony.